Expectations and Disappointments

Experiencing disappointment on some level in life is inevitable. Let’s not try and make believe that its not and that it doesn’t suck. It sucks!

I know we’re not supposed to have expectations of others because it will more than likely lead to disappointment. Yet, we do it and sometimes we do it to those closest to us.

Here’s the thing. Did you talk to the person about the issue at hand or did you just assume they understood and  they just didn’t care? Did you rehearse a conversation in your head of how it would go? Did it go the complete opposite? Now what? You’re sitting alone and crying wondering how it all came crashing down.

I’m going to be real with y’all. I struggle with this. BIG TIME. I struggle with rehearsing conversations in my head of how it “should” go…according to myself, right? That’s not realistic. I know this. Its just my mind starts to war with itself and I start going into a fight or flight mode. Do I want that friendship? Do I want that relationship? Do I want people to see that raw and vulnerable side of me when everyone thinks I have it all together? News flash guys, I don’t. Not even close.

Sometimes, my expectations of someone may be something that the person is unaware of and when I say words like, “you can do___ because I did___” it comes out like I’m being a b**ch and I’m not meaning to. I’ve just played the conversation in my head and before I can be disappointed, I’ve already put up a wall to protect myself and it comes out harsh. I’ve put on a front that, I said what I said and I’m done with it. When I’m not done with it and my side of the conversation continues in my mind.

We need to stop doing this to ourselves and others. We need to talk it out…loud and not just in our mind. Say, “I’m disappointed and here’s why…” and be truthful. The truth may hurt but it also heals.