Kindness

How many times have people assumed that because you’re kind that you will do whatever is asked of you? How many times did you want to say no to something but didn’t because you are kind and kind people aren’t supposed to say no?

Better yet, that if you’re a Christian, you aren’t supposed to say no. Wait…what????

Friend, listen to me very carefully…STOP IT! If a task is asked of you and you feel like you can not take it on, SAY NO! This doesn’t make you an unkind person or any less Christian. It makes you aware of what you’re able to do and what you’re unable to do.

Recently, I was asked to take on an additional responsibility and after thinking about it for a little bit, I declined as nice as possible. I felt and still feel that I can not take on one more responsibility. That doesn’t make me mean or unkind. I am aware of my limits and quite frankly…I am at them.

In January, I had a full-time job and resigned to focus more on writing and starting a boutique. With this, I’m not sure if people think I’m sitting down twiddling thumbs looking for something to do but rest assured, I’m not. I may get a Facebook message and if its not concerning one of my businesses, it will wait to be addressed. Please do not send me a question mark to indicate asking if I read the message. That message will wait even longer to be addressed by doing so. Sorry not sorry. I said what I said.

This is not being unkind or unchristian. This is me putting my livelihood first. This is putting my best self first. My family and my businesses do not deserve what’s left over at the end of the day after I’ve given all I can give to everyone else outside of them. They don’t deserve my thin patience because I have none left after dealing with some of the things that occur during the day.

We need to start standing up for ourselves and stop being afraid of people possibly thinking less of us if we aren’t able to fulfill their request.

You aren’t your best if you’re spread too thin. Let’s take back the control of our lives. Let’s get into a routine that fits best for us and our needs and when you have the availability, lend a hand.

Remember, we don’t have to be rude to get our point across. Do all things with kindness if possible.