Ten years ago, I married someone who I thought would be my forever Valentine. Someone who I thought was the answer to prayers.  Only to quickly find out, that wasn’t the case at all. We made it to our first year anniversary by the hardest and then by year two, is when it really began to get abusive. I hadn’t understood why people stayed in a Narcissistic type of relationship before then and now I completely understand it because I experienced it on my own.  The financial dependence, the ownership, the control, the unrealistic expectations, the love bombing, the rollercoaster of being wanted and then being rejected, only…

Today, for Mother’s Day I wanted to share a little bit about having a mom like mine. My Mom. Where do I begin? There are a lot of women who bore children in this world and it doesn’t make you a mother. Boring a child is the easy part, raising one or more is the hard part. I remember being a young girl and we lived in an apartment when my parents were divorced and my mom had her bedroom in what would have been the dining room so my brother and I would have our own rooms. We used to ride our bikes and blow bubbles and she would…

  What is a manipulator? According to Wikipedia, it is a person who applies psychological manipulation. What does psychological manipulation mean? According to Wikipedia, it is a type of influence that aims to change the behavior or perception of others through indirect, deceptive, or underhanded tactics. Have you ever dealt with a person who manipulates to get their way? What about someone who can camouflage their true motives and paint a pretty picture of why something should be given to them or done their way? Often times, it appears that manipulators have your best interest at heart when they truly have an ulterior motive for some type of gain for themselves. A…

  Drug addiction is no stranger to me. Growing up, I watched my older brother struggle with it and he still does to this day. I’ve seen what it did to his family and what it continues to do to his son. Today, I watch what it’s doing to our middle child. No, I did not physically give birth to him but I accepted him along with his two brothers when I chose to say yes to Brodie in being his girlfriend and later, his wife. Most of his life, he’s watched both of his parents be consumed by addiction. He and his older brother had to fend for themselves…

  Some of you may have read the post on Loss regarding the loss of my MaMom (grandmother) whose soul left this earth on November 23, 2020 to be with Jesus. Shortly after her passing we noticed, what seemed to us, the sudden decline of my PaPop (grandfather), her husband. On New Year’s Day, I saw it for myself and became concerned. He was confused as to where he was and even made the comment to my Mom that her mom was waiting for him at home but she knew where he was so he wasn’t in a hurry. My Mom had to remind him that she was no longer here…

  Loss of a loved one or friend is something that we all experience in life. It’s something that you can never prepare for no matter how hard you try. No matter how much you tell yourself what the reality is. Sometimes its a waiting period like a terminal illness, sometimes its sudden like a suicide or some type of accident. I recently experienced a loss in my own family, my MaMom, and although I knew the ultimate outcome of the situation, I was still ripped apart when I got the phone call. To know that I will never hear her laugh or feel her hugs again on this earth,…

  Have you shared what was bothering you with your spouse and it was not validated and or shut down instantly and that was the end of it? Yet, when they are upset about something, they share it with you and you have to listen and validate how they feel. It’s frustrating and leads to keeping things to yourself for fear of being put down and unvalidated. It makes you feel like what bothers you doesn’t matter and there’s no need to bring it up and discuss it. This dynamic is not what a healthy relationship consist of. Both parties need to make sure that they are creating a safe…

  Let’s talk about soul ties, what it means, and how to sever them. What is a soul tie? A soul tie is a spiritual connection that you have with another person that typically forms after sexual intimacy. What does this mean exactly? It means that your soul is connected to theirs and can remain that way until it is severed…completely. It’s not typically formed for those of one night stands but of those who have a past relationship of some sort that the other person was a big influence in. This could be married or unmarried. Some signs of having soul ties with someone are: obsessing about them in your…