Master Manipulators
What is a manipulator? According to Wikipedia, it is a person who applies psychological manipulation. What does psychological manipulation mean? According to Wikipedia, it is a type of influence that aims to change the behavior or perception of others through indirect, deceptive, or underhanded tactics. Have you ever dealt with a person who manipulates to get their way? What about someone who can camouflage their true motives and paint a pretty picture of why something should be given to them or done their way?
Often times, it appears that manipulators have your best interest at heart when they truly have an ulterior motive for some type of gain for themselves. A person who manipulates others for their own gain, will use any one to get what they want including parents, children, friends, spouses, and even coworkers. They do not have any remorse for their actions. They are cold and callused, yet can appear warm and fuzzy when they need to play the part.
A lot of times they will have a whole presentation, literally, on why a certain decision needs to be made and why it’s best to do it their way. They will even include the best possible outcomes if the decision is made. What is not included is the true motive. The true why. The reason that is omitted is because if it was included, they wouldn’t gain their desired end goal.
A manipulator will lie by omission. They will include some things while leaving some things out because they don’t want those things disclosed.
A manipulator will deny that they are at fault with any wrong doing, ever. They project blame onto others.
A manipulator will rationalize why they displayed the irrational behavior that was displayed, often minimizing it and expecting others to “get over it”.
A manipulator will shame others and make them feel unworthy. They will also input fear and self-doubt.
A manipulator will also turn the tables on another person and accuse them of being the abuser when stood up to.
A manipulator will play the victim card by acting like it is other people’s behavior in order to gain pity or sympathy.
A manipulator is a great seducer. They are able to put the charm and flattery to work and gain the trust of others.
Manipulators feed off of vulnerable people. People who desire to be loved and accepted. People who have low self-esteem. People who have a need to please others. People who are co-dependent.
Manipulator = Narcissist. They are one and the same.
Do you have a manipulator in your life? It can literally be draining the life from you.
