Cheating

It’s an act that happens way too often in today’s society. There is absolutely no justification for it. I don’t care what the excuse is. Some people stay for the kids and that’s an excuse. Judge me if you will but hear me out. How can you provide a happy and stable environment for yourself and family if you’re not happy? You just exist in your day to day routine. You know your significant other is not being faithful to you and he or she is with someone else while you have a family to care for or you’re just alone with your thoughts, waiting for them to return. You don’t laugh, you don’t smile, you’re depressed and you aren’t yourself. The unhappiness is in the air and it seeps into the pores of everyone else around you. Wouldn’t it be better to be happy and provide a happy and positive environment? I did not say this decision will be easy, because it will not be. Not in the slightest but, it will be worth it.

Let’s talk about the act of cheating itself. Can someone explain the point of it? You get fifteen minutes of pleasure to risk a lifetime of regret? You take a chance of losing everything, including the people who love you the most. It doesn’t make sense. The person cheating has to remember all of the lies that are told, constantly making sure that text, emails, and whatever else is hidden. Their secrets begin to eat at them. Their stress level rises because it’s a full time job to keep it all together. They are constantly on edge. Why is that easier than walking away?

When you confront the cheating Narcissist, he or she will somehow twist it in a way that you are now convinced that it is your fault that they were unfaithful. You tell yourself maybe if you were just a little thinner or your hair was a little longer or your face was a little clearer, they wouldn’t have cheated. Let me set you free right now, ITS ALL A LIE!!! It is NOT your fault! If you were perfect, it would have still happened because it is never about you, it is ALWAYS about them.

Cheating does not necessarily have to be done with a physical act. An emotional connection with someone who is not your significant other, is still cheating. Sometimes emotional connections are much more intimate than any sexual act that can be performed.

If you’re the one cheating, be an adult and admit your wrong-doing. Give the other person an opportunity to make a decision that is best for them. Stay and forgive or leave and forgive.

If you are the person who decides to stay and forgive, you can not bring the act up every chance you get. You MUST truly forgive and let it go. There is no point in rehashing it over and over.

If you’re the one being cheated on, YOU are worth so much more! You’re worth someone who will love you through all of the ups and downs. Someone who will be faithful and believes in commitment to one person. Someone who will try their best to give you the world and elevate you and never bring you down.

Relationships are work and it takes two people who are willing to do the work to make it last.

Remember, no matter what, cheating is never okay. It’s never a solution to a relational problem.

You’re beautiful! You’re strong! You’re worth it!