Why

I was recently feeling very anxious about going to a local church because I didn’t want anyone asking me why my relationship didn’t work out. I shared this with a friend and that wise person said to me that we do not have to provide an explanation to anyone and we can end the conversation with a simple answer, it didn’t work out. I was reminded that I was not going to church for anyone but God. This was huge for me because all of my life, I have felt that if someone asked me a question, I was obligated to go into the detail of the why. On this day, I needed someone to tell me that I do not owe anyone any kind of explanation. I want to pass that message on to you, you don’t owe anyone an explanation!

What are some of the causes that a relationship doesn’t last as long as you had hoped? Could it be that the two of you are not going in the same direction in life after all these years? Are you settling because you think that there can’t possibly be anyone out there that will truly be who you need them to be? Maybe you need someone to love you without judgement of any kind. Someone who will make sure that you are lifted up and encouraged and chooses you. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

I’ll be honest, this is what I need for myself. I want someone who chooses to move forward and constantly wants the best for themselves. I want someone who chooses me EVERYDAY no matter what! I need someone who can handle all of me and that includes my high moments and my low moments. Will it ever happen for me? Why has it not happened yet? Why do I keep getting to this point in my life? I look at other couples who’ve been married for years and think, am I ever going to experience that kind of love? These feelings are raw and honest. I’ve had to give it to God and trust in his plan and in his timing. Can you relate?

If you have recently experience a breakup, focus on yourself. Focus on taking the next step toward healing. Figure out what kind of relationship you want and don’t settle for anything less.

Don’t hate me for saying this, forgive them. Notice that I didn’t say, if you want to. Its not a want, its a must. You can not hold onto the hurt and the pain of it. Release it. Once you do, you will find freedom.